In our world, there are many stereotypes that many find it difficult to get rid of. Stereotypes are associated with “ossified” thinking, a person cannot perceive a new and different, something that does not correspond to his ideals and worldview.
For example, they think of childfree that these people are cruel selfish and hate children. But this is not so! Childfree is people who have decided that they don’t need children, but that doesn’t mean that they hate them.
In this article, you will learn 10 myths about childfree and perhaps take a look at this culture in a different way.
10. Childfree impose their position on others
Many people, seeing a childfree community on a social network, believe that these people are promoting their ideology and imposing their worldview on others. But think for yourself ... why should they? After all, this is not a sect that gathers participants to advance their position in life.
Childfree doesn’t impose anything on anyone, and everyone has communities, for example: “Moms and babies”, “A child is a miracle”, and all that sort of thing. Any community can be called propaganda, but it is not. People just talk and share their stories, their world, like everyone else.
9. Childfree hate children and mothers requiring state benefits
This, of course, is not so. Childfree may have a love for children (for example, their nephews, younger brothers or sisters), but their values are different - it is possible that in the first place people have a desire to build a career or travel only together. Hatred has nothing to do with it, just people don’t want to have children and do their upbringing.
Yes, among childfree there are also detonators (they are called childhates), but rarely. And the childfree question about why people have children, and then demand help from the state, can be fully justified - after all, first of all, this suggests that parents are irresponsible, since they had not thought about the content of their unborn child in advance.
8. Children are not born either sick or infertile
For some reason, people believe that everyone (mainly women) should want children, and if they don’t want to - there is a reason: people either have problems with their heads or people cannot have children.
But the reproductive function should not determine human life - we are not animals that are not able to reflect. For example, each person can sign up for a shooting, but not everyone does it - because we can choose what we want and what not.
The same thing with children. Unwillingness of the child is not a psychological problem, but a conscious choice.
7. Childfree cannot have children because there is no one with
There is one universal phrase that childfree and gay women often hear: “You just didn't have a normal guy!” What “normal” means and why it should change everything is still incomprehensible ... “Normal” is a very subjective concept, and this phrase is at least inappropriate.
In addition, many childfree are a couple consisting of a woman and a man, who, by the way, can be happier than their neighbors with children living in the neighborhood.
6. Children are the meaning of life, the life of childfree is empty
Whose meaning of life? Everyone has their own ideology, and if for some people the meaning of life is a child and his upbringing, this does not mean that everyone sees the meaning in the same way. About the emptiness of life is a very controversial statement ... Many people living in families with their children lead a very empty and uninteresting life, while childfree live rich and rich.
Someone finds happiness in caring for children, someone likes to paint and live alone, while someone travels and enjoys life ... Each has its own meaning.
5. When the childless are retired, the state will support them from the taxes of our children
Hearing this is very strange, because childfree, like everyone else, pays taxes, and they go to the support of the state to families - in the form of maternity payments, free education, medical care.
Childfree's pension depends on how much tax they pay now. If you delve into this issue, it turns out that childfree even overpay for those services that will never be used.
Surely they have no goals to get the money of your offspring.
4. Childfree are doomed to lonely old age, they will have no one to give a glass of water
Children are not a guarantee of a carefree old age in love and care. A child can leave, get sick, refuse to care for his elderly parents and send them to a nursing home - anything can happen ...
Many mature children start their families and they simply do not have time for their elderly parents. A glass of water, maybe they will bring it up, but they will definitely not be constantly nearby.
Loneliness is normal, we are born and die alone. In addition, who is better - chayfldry or those who have children - is unknown ... After all, childfree can live for their own pleasure, without worrying about their children. Many have children only for fear of being alone.
3. If childfree will not give birth, then humanity will die out
More than 7.5 billion people inhabit the earth, and there are very few childfree to threaten extinction. 90% of people become parents.
Yes, every year there are more and more childfree, as well as those who are more conscious about the conception of a child. This is much better than abandoned unnecessary children in shelters ...
Also, why are people so worried about this extinction issue?
2. A woman without children is unnatural
Women are still under the yoke of stereotypes. Yes, they have the opportunity to conceive a child, but to do it or not is everyone’s business.
Sometimes a paradox happens - barren women dreaming of children are condemned to childfree, thinking: “How can you refuse children? After all, this is a blessing of God ... "
This is not a blessing, but fertility. The birth of a child is not an obligation entrusted to nature, but every woman decides whether to use it or not.
1. Previously there were no people with similar beliefs
Previously, there was a lot of things ... Therefore, people had to hide, impersonate someone else, etc. The childfree movement arose in the 20th century - it is quite young, but this does not mean that before people had great pleasure in having children. People simply had no choice, the opinion of a person did not matter.
However, in history there are cases of infanticide, methods of abortion, the state of nannies who were engaged in children, if the mother did not want to raise her offspring. This proves that it is better to have open beliefs than to pretend that everything is fine and torment yourself.