The beginning of a relationship is a period when a man and a woman try to show their best side, make a good impression, cause a desire to meet, communicate, spend time together. However, paying attention to appearance: hair, makeup, clothes, do not forget that on the first date you will have to talk with a man, which means that it’s good to think through interesting topics, stock up on a couple of fascinating stories and remember ten points of what you don’t need to talk about and how not to behave on a first date.
10. Interrupt him
The best interlocutor is one who knows how to carefully listen and hear. This does not mean that the whole meeting needs to be silent, but if a man talks enthusiastically about something, show interest and respect, listen to his story to the end. If he was joking, try to laugh sincerely, or at least smile. If you told a case from a life where his good qualities showed up, admire them. For example, if a guy saved a kitten from an angry dog as a child, tell him how brave and kind he is. A sincere compliment will help establish a warm atmosphere during a date. The more you hear, the more information you will receive about his interests, life position and attitude to many things.
9. Make fun of him
Men appreciate a sense of humor in girls, but only if your jokes are not directed at their person. Put yourself in the place of the interlocutor. It is unlikely that you will want to be the subject of tricks and ridicule from a person who claims to have close relationships. Believe me, on the first date he experiences excitement and stress and least of all wants to be a reason for jokes. What you consider a harmless little thing can hurt a person to the depths of his soul and the first date will be the last. However, laughter and humor bring together, so stock up on a couple of funny stories, jokes on a neutral topic, so that both of you can laugh at them without hitting each other's feelings.
8. Talk only about yourself
A woman should be a mystery, a secret that you want to solve again and again. Therefore, if you talk about yourself all the time, starting from early childhood and ending with this day, your interlocutor, firstly, will think that you are only concerned about your own person, and secondly, you will quickly lose interest in you. What to solve if all the answers are on the surface? You can talk about your hobby, about traveling, about cities and countries that you like, about films, books that are interesting. This will help to find common ground, give the conversation the ease and ease that men in girls value so much.
7. Discuss other dates
No man will tolerate comparisons with former guys, so if you want to see him again, do not compare. Let your experience of meetings, partings, love affairs remain in the past. Even a compliment to your interlocutor expressed in the context of comparison can spoil the evening and until the end of the meeting the man will in his soul wear an unpleasant precipitate caused by your memories. In the end - your companion is not a product that lies on the counter next to others similar to it. Instead of comparing, enjoy a pleasant company and just have fun.
6. Talk about sex right away
The first date is like a dance and it is more a charming and noble waltz than a passionate and sensual tango. No need to rush things, you always have time to talk about sex, and if a man has serious intentions, then this can happen not even on the second and not on the third date. If your goal is a short-term relationship without commitment, then feel free to talk about sex. Starting communication on spicy topics, the girl should be prepared for the fact that the partner will begin to see in her a frivolous person with whom you can spend several nights, but no more. As a rule, men don’t value what goes too easy for them.
5. Constantly complain
The first date should take place on the wave of positive. Pessimistic people repel men. Everyone has their own problems. Yes, maybe your mood was ruined today by an evil traffic cop, and a work colleague again failed with an important project, but remember one simple thing. A man, especially on a first date, is not a vest in which you can cry without stopping. Imagine if your chosen one begins to talk about the fact that his boss is a villain, he is at work, his beloved dog is sick, and he also has several credits hanging on him. Do not be like a grandmother on a bench that expresses dissatisfaction with everything that surrounds her.
4. Talk about ex
The theme of past relationships is a taboo, and not just on a first date. Talking about former lovers in a negative way, you can prompt the interlocutor to the idea that in the event of a break, he will suffer the same fate, and you will wash his bones with a new partner. Not only is a man not interested in hearing about your love affairs, in most cases it is annoying and causes unpleasant feelings. After all, today he came to you to start a relationship from scratch. Therefore, you do not need to scribble white pages with blots from the past. Move forward together, look to the future, rejoice at new feelings.
3. Discuss your unborn children
He just smiled charmingly, and in your dreams you already imagined how big your spacious house will be, how many children you will have, and how your dog will be called. This is the mistake of many women. If you start discussing plans for a joint future at the first date, you can greatly frighten a man, because his fantasies so far are limited only to you. No man comes to a first date with an engagement ring in his pocket. When a strong feeling and deep affection arise on his part, then the desire to create a family will appear. Family relationships are a serious step, men who are naturally freedom-loving must prepare to say goodbye to a bachelor's life.
2. Ask about his former women
Before touching on the topic of ex-lovers out of curiosity, think about what you will do with the information received, because in the process of conversation, many not always pleasant details may come up. Often after such conversations, the girl begins to be jealous of her man for the past and constantly compare herself with those who were with him before. In this case, the saying “you know less, sleep better” works flawlessly. In addition, by asking about those who came before you, you can hurt a person, open a spiritual wound and cause a stream of unpleasant memories, especially if feelings were strong and the breakup was not on his initiative.
1. Interested in his financial situation.
You should not ask about the size of your salary and the condition of financial accounts if you do not want to seem mercantile, who is primarily interested only in money. You also don’t need to touch on the topic of having your own living space, otherwise you can run into a joke from Ostap Bender’s arsenal about the “key to the apartment where the money is.” The welfare of the interlocutor, as a rule, can be determined by appearance, manner of paying bills, dressing. In extreme cases, you can talk about travel. Ask what places he happened to visit and where he plans to go next time.